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Super Six!

04 May

We had assumed a few months were all it would take. But the wait is still on even after six long years… This was the day when I walked out of my cocoon clutching his hand, with dreams unlimited. Least did I know then that I would not return to my home even once in the next six years. The home, that presented me my existence in this world and first 20 golden years of my life! I left the people who meant (and still mean) the world to me and chose to flee and create a different world of my own. People drew several conclusions from this event but the unanimous one would be that I loved the guy more than my parents. I beg to differ. Can one compare in any way a girl’s love for her man v/s her parents? I don’t think so. My Dad was the first man in my life I fell in love with. Why then did I abandon my parents and went along a stranger whom I had hardly even met? I thought that I will get back my parents’ love in a matter of time, but if I lose this guy, I would be losing him for life. Infidelity is something neither my dad nor I can tolerate. And here I am today six years since that Black day in our lives… Fingers refuse to uncross, heart denies to seize hoping, may be just may be for the first time in his life, dad would forgive the person who betrayed his trust…

I would like to also take this opportunity to write a letter to Abbas, as I have never done one in this blog.

Abbas,

Can you believe it’s been six years since we got married? We started a new life together, and created two beautiful lives on this journey. We have outdone all the goals we set for ourselves when we dreamt of our union. Happy, although we are, contentment evades us even today. The picture is still incomplete without my family. Several people ask me even today if I’m happy in this marriage. How do I explain to them what you mean to me? Marrying you gave me a re-birth. I am a completely transformed personality today. And I can confidently say that it holds true with you too.

Even though we had a virtual courtship, I took to my new environment and family effortlessly like fish takes to water. The credit must undoubtedly go to you who knew how to maintain a balance. I still remember the golden words you told me on our first night together – ‘Don’t try to please anyone or be extra nice. Just be the way you are coz you are not a guest in this home. You are here to stay’ It actually did the trick. The in-laws knew where to limit their expectations of me and accepted me the way I am.

When the matter of practicing religious norms came into picture, you again exhibited such a mature way of striking a balance between your pious dad and your non-believer-of-religious-ways-of-worship wife. You handled it with immense grace.

 You have stood by me through all the hurdles and hardships that I underwent. You have shed tears with me unable to stop my tears over hundreds of night in the first few years of marriage. You have been the father, mother, brother, sister and every other person I missed or remembered all the while. I can never forget my pregnancy days which made me see a different side of you. I could sense the envy in Ma too when she asked why it was necessary for you to accompany me to every routine visit to the doc! Taking care of me was on top priority for you then. Not that you don’t take care of me now, but you have two other female characters in your life which hog your priority list.

During the post natal days, it was only you and I alone who nursed the babies through the night. Even though you were working then, you would wake up to nurse them just to let me catch up on some sleep.

When we decided to go ahead with a job offer that I got from Chennai, people mocked at you taunting that you are letting your wife go ahead with an opportunity that was far better than what you were having then. The only question you asked them back which shut them off was – ‘Would you have asked the same question had I got the opportunity?’

You have lived upto everything you promised before marriage (except for the quitting smoking bit which you took a couple of years to accomplish) The only setback in our unification is the lack of my family’s approval. But other than that, not even for a passing moment in these six years did I regret having married you. We were certainly meant to be together forever as one.

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64 responses to “Super Six!

  1. R's Mom

    May 4, 2012 at 9:07 am

    Can I confess I had goosebumps reading this…

    God bless both of you (I know I sound like an old granny, but seriously thats the first thought in my mind!)…Seriously, I hope the love continues to blossom for ever..

    Abbas bhai, you have a BEEEEEG fan here in Mumbai…

    And Seema, muah to you darling…hoping the family approval comes soon…

    and oh! compared to the letter I wrote to RD on our anniversary, this one is so damn more more romantic..next Feb, I am taking tips from both you guys to write nice romantic letters instead of sarcastic ones 🙂

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    • Seema

      May 7, 2012 at 12:16 am

      Hey Thanks for all the blessings ERM 😀

      Oye, he blushes whenever I tell him that he has beeeg fans in my blog readers 🙂

      Arey RM, you were the inspiration in the first place to write a letter to Abbas on our anniversary. I just loved your letter too and like always, your style of expressing is very unique.

      Only tip I can probably give is, you can directly admit on your blog that you love RD instead of saying that you think you love him, coz we all know you do 😀

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  2. summerscript

    May 4, 2012 at 9:36 am

    Happy Happy Anniversary!!!!
    Don’t try to please anyone or be extra nice. Just be the way you are coz you are not a guest in this home. You are here to stay —- Abbas Bhaiyya is the bestest!! 😀
    Wishing you loads and loads of happiness !! 🙂 🙂

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    • Seema

      May 7, 2012 at 12:18 am

      Yayay, one of the perks of marrying a mature man. There are downsides too babes 😀

      Thanks SS

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  3. Vaishali

    May 4, 2012 at 9:39 am

    Congratulations!!!You guys were meant to be together.

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    • Seema

      May 7, 2012 at 12:18 am

      Thanks Vaishali. Welcome here.

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  4. lampnitslight

    May 4, 2012 at 9:49 am

    A very happy 6th wedding anniversary to both of you.Indeed you both are made for each other…
    May God shower his blessings upon you and fill your life with happiness :-)Have a great celebration today.

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    • Seema

      May 7, 2012 at 12:18 am

      Thanks a lot for your wishes Garima. 😀

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  5. Anusha

    May 4, 2012 at 10:22 am

    Happy Anniversary to you and Abbas !! Wishing you happiness always 🙂

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    • Seema

      May 7, 2012 at 12:19 am

      Thanks for the wishes Anusha 😀

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  6. lifesong

    May 4, 2012 at 10:30 am

    Awww… Seema. I found my eyes moist after reading this. You two are indeed made for each other. Wishing you both a very Happy anniversary and a great life ahead. I sincerely pray that your family comes around and accepts your marriage soon to complete the happy picture.

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    • Seema

      May 7, 2012 at 12:20 am

      Thanks for keeping us in your prayers and for strengthening our hopes with such lovely words LS 🙂

      Thanks again 😀

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  7. Anonymously Disguised

    May 4, 2012 at 10:39 am

    This post made me cry and the not so curious husband came to check if I was reading something about pregnancy and it’s after effects on the internet 🙄 I made him read it and there was a little smile on his face and he hugged me tight 🙂 I know what you are going through Seema…but like you said the journey I started with the man I love has never caused me any regrets…I love him more and more every single day 😳 sheesh…..your post made me so emotional 😳

    Hugs to you and Abbas. Cheers to more wonderful years of togetherness and love…

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    • Seema

      May 7, 2012 at 12:23 am

      Awww, I’m so sorry Sakshi. 😦

      You are not supposed to be crying now alright? We want the two li’l darlings in there to be merry all the time 😀

      Tight hugs to the two of you too.

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  8. Sugar and Spice

    May 4, 2012 at 10:54 am

    That is such an emotional post!

    Happy anniversary, Seema and Abbas! 🙂 🙂 Here’s to more and more of such lovely years!

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  9. Greenboochi (GB)

    May 4, 2012 at 11:49 am

    Happy Anniversary Seema, Long live your love for each other :):) and my prayers for you to unite with your family soon.

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    • Seema

      May 7, 2012 at 12:24 am

      Thanks a lot GB 😀

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  10. Bikramjit Singh Mann

    May 4, 2012 at 2:03 pm

    I ma sure you know what I will be saying 🙂

    end of the day what matter most is that you are happy, and surly you are happy. I am sure parents will come around too sooner or later .. Just have faith and be how you are all the time ..

    Happy anniversary i would say .. and god bless you- abbas sir and the little ones .. Keep smiling and be happy always

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    • Seema

      May 7, 2012 at 12:25 am

      Yes, I kind of knew that Bikram 🙂

      Thank you for being around 😀

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  11. My Era

    May 4, 2012 at 3:03 pm

    Tight hugs Seema
    I would be wrong if I said ‘I can understand your pain’ for pain is something felt and understood best only by the one who suffers it.
    Sending tons of best wishes to both of you on your special day and here’s wishing for your reunion with your parents and family soon.
    Hugs again

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    • Seema

      May 7, 2012 at 12:26 am

      Thanks a ton for all the hugs and wishes Era.

      That line is so so true dear.

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  12. Ashwathy

    May 4, 2012 at 5:01 pm

    I cried on reading this post. I have nothing more to say.
    God bless you both!

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    • Seema

      May 7, 2012 at 12:27 am

      Oh! Hugs to you Ash. I just can’t have a comment from you where you don’t have anything to say.

      Will post a Mantam-ism soon to make up. 😀

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  13. lostinmylilworld

    May 4, 2012 at 5:35 pm

    **Touchwood* and *Kaala Tikka* to your wonderful journey of 6 years!! Wish you many many more years of togetherness!! U guys hv been through thick n thin periods of life all together!! Aweeee to it!! I just hope that ur Family Picture shall soon be complete with your parents at your side too!!

    All hopes n wishes dear!! Hugggs n congrats again!! Hv a lovely life ahead!!
    P.S- Lovely Post!!

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    • Seema

      May 7, 2012 at 12:28 am

      Thanks for all the wishes, hopes and hugs. Means a lot to have you all around 😀 Really!

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  14. Roopa

    May 4, 2012 at 7:08 pm

    awww!That was one beautiful letter Seema…god bless u guys! congrats on ur sixth wedding anniv!

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  15. Tharani

    May 4, 2012 at 8:30 pm

    I’m in tears Seema reading this post. A very very happy anniversary to you both. I wish and pray that the reunion with your parents happens soon, very soon. Hugs and many hugs:-)

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    • Seema

      May 7, 2012 at 12:30 am

      Thanks a lot Tharani for being around 😀

      Hugs right back to you 🙂

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  16. anisnest

    May 5, 2012 at 12:09 am

    lovely post.. here’s to your love for each other to grow every day more and more.. stay strong Seema.. the day is not too far for your family to accept you.. keep up the spirit.. hugs..

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    • Seema

      May 7, 2012 at 12:30 am

      Thanks for instilling hope Ani. 😀

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      • anisnest

        May 7, 2012 at 1:26 am

        hey did you check my latest post?

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        • Seema

          May 10, 2012 at 7:51 am

          You mean the cinnamon roll waala post? I read it Ani, I guess missed commenting. Will do 😀 SOrry

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  17. Comfy

    May 5, 2012 at 4:19 am

    Seema, this is such a full of love letter. I can understand how difficult it must be for you and Abbas to not get that yes from your family but what you have between the two of you is precious. And I can’t tell you how happy it makes me to read about it.

    God Bless and happy 6 years of togetherness.

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    • Seema

      May 7, 2012 at 12:32 am

      The pleasure is mine to share it with you Comfy 😀

      Thank you so much for being around. Means a lot 🙂

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  18. mayborngemini

    May 6, 2012 at 7:38 pm

    Congratulations to you and Abbas…hope you a great time on your annivesary.

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  19. RS

    May 7, 2012 at 9:43 am

    Congrats Seema and Abbas.. that was a sweet letter that you have written. Wish you many more happy years.

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    • Seema

      May 10, 2012 at 7:51 am

      Thanks a lot for your wishes RS 🙂

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  20. ashreyamom

    May 7, 2012 at 12:01 pm

    happy anniversary. written straight from heart.. both of you are lucky having found each other. best wishes to both of you.

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    • Seema

      May 10, 2012 at 7:52 am

      Yeah, Considering the way we found each other, we are lucky for sure 🙂

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  21. Lifeslittletwists

    May 7, 2012 at 12:38 pm

    Happy Happy Anniversary Seem and Abbas! You 2 deserve loads more happiness – you make such a great pair.

    Seema – again, I have goosebumps reading this post. Again I can only say I will pray that things work out in your favour very soon…

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    • Seema

      May 10, 2012 at 7:53 am

      Thanks RS 🙂

      Yes, keeping us in your prayers also would mean a lot dear.

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  22. AA_Mom

    May 7, 2012 at 2:18 pm

    Congrats to the 2 of you Seema.

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  23. NBose

    May 7, 2012 at 8:08 pm

    A tight Jhappi from my side…..Belated wishes to U Seema & convey my wishes to Abbas Bhai as well……such a heart-felt post,…He is so understanding…how simply he made you feel at home 🙂

    You know, I believe that every event has a particular pre-set time…so you would again meet you parents and in a happy note when the right time arrives….

    P.S. I lost the password for your “love-story’ post…can you please resend it 🙂

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    • Seema

      May 10, 2012 at 7:55 am

      Ghee sakkar in your mouth NBose. 😀

      Thanks so much for the reassurance.

      Will resend the password.

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  24. Raji

    May 7, 2012 at 10:59 pm

    Congratulations Seema and Abbas Bhai….. Seema – I sincerely hope some one from your family is reading your blog. May God from both religions bless you to be united with your family very soon.

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    • Seema

      May 10, 2012 at 7:58 am

      Thanks for your wishes Raji 🙂

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  25. Preethi

    May 8, 2012 at 8:08 am

    Hi Seema,

    This is the first time I am commenting here, though I have read some updates from you in the last few days. I like the way you blog about your 2 little darlings. Mantamisms are the best. I am yet to read your complete blog 🙂

    The letter you wrote to Abbas is really heart touching…may you love each other the same always and I sincerely hope that your parents welcome you back.

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    • Seema

      May 10, 2012 at 8:01 am

      Glad you commented Preethi, welcome here. Hope to see you around here.

      Thanks for your wishes dear 🙂

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  26. The Girl Next Door

    May 8, 2012 at 9:19 pm

    This is my first visit to your blog, and I get to read such a beautiful post. It touched me deep and hard, and my eyes are moist even as I type this out. I am glad you guys found each other. (Belated) happy anniversary!

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    • Seema

      May 10, 2012 at 8:01 am

      Hey TGND, welcome here.

      Thank you so much.

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  27. techie2mom

    May 9, 2012 at 10:44 am

    Hey, Congratulations to both of you for completing 6 years of togetherness…Very very very sweet post (I should make my hubby read this one 🙂 )
    All the best for life, hope you get what you want….

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  28. Little Fingers

    May 10, 2012 at 2:55 am

    This is such an emotional post Seemu, .Tight hugs to you. Wish you and Abbas many more beautiful years together. I am sure the worry of yours will go soon, waiting for the day when you and family is together and they accept this relationship.

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    • Seema

      May 10, 2012 at 11:34 pm

      Thank you so much LF. Feels so good to have people like you around. Those words do strengthen my hopes 🙂

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  29. Visha

    June 6, 2012 at 6:51 pm

    This is so heart felt Seema…you have me literally choked up 🙂

    Loads of warm and good wishes to all of you

    P.S I am gonna dig your posts now 😛

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    • Seema

      June 20, 2012 at 11:34 pm

      Glad you could connect to my feelings Visha and welcome here.

      Hope you like rest of the posts too. 🙂

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  30. manasaprasad

    October 30, 2014 at 5:12 am

    I hope you find peace n the strength needed dear seema. I’m glad you found the one for u! That’s one of the best things in the world.

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    • Seema

      November 3, 2014 at 12:32 pm

      Yes Manasa. I am strong, my tears no more flow freely. I am content with the new family I am blessed with. But that void will still be there and hey, life still goes on 😊

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  31. amitasingh10

    December 18, 2014 at 8:51 am

    Lovely heartfelt post. Hope you both have many many more such anniversaries together.

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    • Seema

      December 25, 2014 at 6:17 am

      Thanks for your wishes Amita

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