Free Gyan on Parenting

09 Jan

When we moved in to this apartment, naturally one of the first few that we got acquainted to was our next door neighbour S’s Mom (A). S is 6 months older to Mantam but she is studying in Class 1 while Mantam are in UKG now. S goes to a renowned school in Bangalore where a majority of the apartment kids also study.

During one casual conversation, A asked me which school Mantam go to. I told her that we have got them admitted to XYZ school this year. She was shell shocked and let out a loud gasp as if it was a taboo.

Then she began – “Oh Seema, why did you admit them to XYZ school? It is not good. You know, even our maids’ kids go there to study.”

Me: “So what? Even they work hard to educate theior kids. They would always wish that their children should have a bright future just like us”

A: ” No, but you should have put them in a better school. After all you would we slog and earn?”

Me: “Frankly, we enquired in a lot of schools and most charge high donation and fees. Since we have to shell out double the amount at a shot, we could not afford them.”

A: “Aiyo aiyo. You shouldn’t speak like that. They are your children right? What else will you spend on? Being parents, we have to make a lot of sacrifices to secure a great future for our kids.”

Me: “But I don’t think that sending to schools with big names would help in achieving that. I myself come from a small town and have studied in a normal school. I think I’m not doing bad myself in life.”

A: “But these days, things are different. You know, my husband did a redearch on all schools in Bangalore for 3 years and then zeroed in on this one. He is very particular and adamant about his daughter’s education. bla bla bla”

And I did not have any more energy to place any more counter arguments, so just let her jabber away while I managed a silly grin on my face. When I came back home and vented my frustration, Abbas tole me why did you listen to her, you should have blasted her left, right and center. Hmm I know, but somehow I always remember the things I should have said on hindsight only 😦


Another day at the park, I had taken Mantam to the park and they were playing in the sand. A came with S to the park and looking at Mantam, she also joined them in the sand play. A started chatting with me and during the course, she moved her eyes to examine what S was doing and suddenly yelled. I got startled right there and turned to see what had happened. To my biwilderment, A admonished S for playing in the sand and issued a stern warning that if she touches the sand again, she will not be brought to the park. My heart went out to the little girl. A then explains to me (although I never asked) “She will have worms in her tummy if she plays in the sand. Just last month, I got the de-worming excerise done for her to ensure that all the worms are gone. And look what she is doing now! You must also not let them play in the sand Seema”

No prizes for guessing the expression on my face.


PS: RM, your favourite Abbas bhai is being very non-cooperative and not letting me blog. He has acquired our laptop and playing some silly game on it just so as to bug me. I am forced use my office laptop which I hate to the core. What say you now?



Posted by on January 9, 2014 in Uncategorized


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12 responses to “Free Gyan on Parenting

  1. Bingo

    January 10, 2014 at 12:15 am

    de-worming exercise??!! Kadavule!!! I purposely send Bingo to play in sand as I know the happiness of playing in that and she loves it too.


    • Seema

      January 16, 2014 at 7:51 pm

      Kadavule wonly!!! Me too, I’m so happy that their park has sand to play and not a concrete surface.


  2. anisnest

    January 10, 2014 at 1:00 am

    hmm why don’t they understand to each is its own? hope these people grow up some day for good!


    • Seema

      January 16, 2014 at 7:52 pm

      Amen to that 🙂


  3. Maya

    January 10, 2014 at 6:03 am

    God has given us two ears only let in such reckless adivce through one year and let it out through the other! 🙂

    And, I literally LoLed at the reason for not allowing children to play in the sand pit! How did you keep a straight face?!


    • Seema

      January 16, 2014 at 8:03 pm

      Hehe true, that!

      I dunno how I kept a straight face. But after that incident, I tried to avoid this lady as much as possible. And within a couple of months, they moved out of this apartment.


  4. R's Mom

    January 10, 2014 at 9:34 am

    Dear Abbas Bhai, please do let Seema blog this one month. I promise to give you unlimited filter coffee and hot dosas off the tava when you come to Bombay theek hai?

    Dear Seema, pyaar se request karogi toh woh denge boss 🙂

    And on that mother S…baap rey..super enthu mother she is..what will she say when she sees the way R eats her food right after a play in the park without washing hands..shiva shiva 🙂


    • Seema

      January 16, 2014 at 8:05 pm

      How sweet of you RM!

      Will try that re. Anyway, these days I try to finish the post before he comes back form work to avoid the jhanjhat….

      She will faint then and there, I’m pretty sure :mrgreen:


  5. Little Fingers

    January 11, 2014 at 10:23 pm

    How annoying it would have been. Each of us has our own patenting style. It’s good we don’t give other gyan what is good or bad. Ignore such people Seema. You can’t change them and their way of thinking. Do what’s right for you and family .


    • Seema

      January 16, 2014 at 8:07 pm

      Yes, tried avoiding this lady as much as possible. And luckily for me, she moved out of the apartment in a couple of months’ time. But you get to meet many of such species, we better learn to ignore and do what suits us. You are right!


  6. manasaprasad

    October 18, 2014 at 6:32 am

    I get that all the time. Why do u let your baby crawl around in temple ? Why do u let him throw sand over himself? Sometimes I just smile the comment away. At other times I just tell them there’s dettol for everything. 🙂
    N about the school she has no business commenting on your decision. By the way I love the honesty in your writing!


    • Seema

      December 25, 2014 at 7:06 pm

      You are so polite with people. I feel I do write diplomatically at times as I am not an anonymous blogger 🙂 But yes, many times I don’t care and tell myself that it is my blog and my space and I am going to read the posts during my old age. So, better be honest 🙂



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