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The Movement Saga | Preparation

30 May

I have a lot to write here and ample time on hands as we are both looking for jobs still. I have planned to come up with a series of posts to cover the whole hullabaloo. We took risks from the moment we took this decision and are at a point now where we don’t see where we are headed to. But belief in self, determination and optimism are the driving us hang on till we see the other end of the tunnel.

The day we received the grant, we were on cloud nine. That joy must be comparable to that of a mountain climber, inspite of hurdles in profusion, hanging in there when you see fellow climbers retreating or falling off the cliff, you hold on not letting the negative thoughts distract and finally being able to succeed on the journey you set out for. Oh boy, that feeling still gives me goosebumps.

After the initial euphoria of receiving the grant set in, we had to chalk out plans for the subsequent actions. To say that it was humongous task is to put it lightly. We decided that we would wrap up our abode in Bangalore and travel to Kolkata, spend some time with in-laws and fly from there to Sydney. Abbas did a lot of research on airfares, we had almost zeroed in on Cathay Pacific which cost us the lowest fare among the lot. But all of a sudden, we learnt about Air Asia and they were flying for almost half the price. It is a low cost carrier and mediocre compared to its counterparts but our objective was to save as much as possible. Air Asia it was!! Both Abbas and I had our last working day on 25th of April (which was a Friday). We thought we might wanna keep one working day handy just in case we had any official work pending. We booked Duronto tickets for 29th April. We were scheduled to reach Kolkata on 30th. The flight from there was on 10th May.

We had to decide on the plan of action for our household goods. We would sell most of the things. Kaalu (our TV) would be sent to BIL’s household. Water filter and our bed would be sent to Kolkata to Ma. My cousin who just started his career in Bangalore was looking for a fridge, he liked mine. But I told him I would be able to give it only in the last week of April and he was okay with that. One of Mantam’s caretakers from previous school wanted to take the washing machine and they were okay to take it in April. Rest of the things would be put up on sale. Whatever wouldn’t get sold would be parceled off to Kolkata. The most painful decision of all was to sell Bulu. There were days Mantam shed tears on knowing that they had to depart from Bulu. We inquired among close of circle of friends and relatives if any of them would be interested, so that we could still be assured that he is in known hands. One of Abbas’s colleagues was interested but he backed off later due to some crisis at his end. Bulu had to be let gone to a stranger’s care 😦 Abbas put up an ad on OLX without my knowledge and I remember being upset with him all day coz a party came immediately that day to see Bulu. It was just so hard to accept the reality!!! Another painful departure would be from the birds. (Reminds me that I hardly wrote about them, this qualifies for a post in itself)

Apart from all the material things, we had to prepare Mantam for this change mentally. We were worried that they might be in for a culture shock. Also for a fact that our lifestyle would completely change once there. We were living a comfortable life back in Bangalore with an abundant household, but once we would move, we would have to spend our Indian savings in dollars which would pinch us every moment. Slowly and steadily, we drilled it into their heads that Mamma Baba might not be able to buy them any toys, or take them out to restaurants or indulge in any costly affairs till they would secure a jon in Australia. We felt guilty about the whole affair at one point for making them go through this. We could have made their life easier had one of gone ahead and settled down with a job and a house and taken them later. But when we weighed both the options, staying together as a family led the priority list leaving behind material pleasures. We didn’t want to thrust our choice onto them forcibly. So we explained to them that we have both these options, what would they prefer? Staying away from either one of us or sacrificing on a few luxuries but staying together and they chose the latter, much to our pleasure.

To be continued…

PS: I will soon approve and reply all the comments. So sorry about that.

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20 responses to “The Movement Saga | Preparation

  1. alwayshappykya

    May 30, 2014 at 4:19 am

    Just moving houses can be so daunting, I cannot even begin to think how big this international move was!

    Well, we ( my husband and I) moved countries several years back, but had no kids or major material belongings to bother about.So, that made it easier, I guess.

    Cannot wait to hear the rest of the story..and also to know how Mantam are liking their new country?

    My heartiest wishes for the job..may it land much easily than you ever thought! πŸ™‚

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    • Seema

      October 17, 2014 at 9:06 am

      It was THE MAHA MOVE re AHK. Still tired, phew πŸ˜€

      Mantam are loving it here. Job hunt was a bit of a struggle but ended on a good note. πŸ™‚

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  2. Little Fingers

    May 30, 2014 at 4:40 am

    Relocating to a new continent is never easy. I am sure your scarifies and effort will be paid off . Hugs and prayers. Good luck too !!

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    • Seema

      October 17, 2014 at 9:07 am

      Thanks Lifi. Your prayers paid off πŸ™‚ Muah

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  3. Autumn Leaves

    May 30, 2014 at 5:23 am

    All the best to you! The initial settling down phase is tough. But things will slowly fall in place. Has Mantam started their school? Eager to read more about the move!

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    • Seema

      October 17, 2014 at 9:08 am

      Thanks Sunitha. Yes they have begun schooling. Will write soon.

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  4. R's Mom

    May 30, 2014 at 8:56 am

    Waiting for the next part..am sure Mantam will adjust without any issues :):) they are rockstars…

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    • Seema

      October 17, 2014 at 9:08 am

      Yes, you were right! They continue to surprise us πŸ˜›

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  5. greenboochi

    May 30, 2014 at 9:58 am

    Hugs to you for taking such a huge step and making your way through it with a lot of determination.

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  6. Bikramjit

    May 30, 2014 at 11:43 am

    It will all be fine.. soon. I would look for part time jobs just to keep some money come in.. i did that..

    As I said in previous comment any problems let me know as my sis is there.. So don’t worry much.. It take time so be patient. .

    I came to uk and went through the same..

    All I will say don’t lose hope and be patient. .

    Take care and love to little one’s

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    • Seema

      October 17, 2014 at 9:11 am

      Thanks for your suggestions Bikram. We followed it but unfortunately getting casual jobs was also difficult here. Anyway, like you said we didn’t lose hope and patience, hung in there.

      Thanks a lot.

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  7. shaktii

    May 30, 2014 at 11:54 am

    All the best to you!! My heart goes out to your twins as they choose the latter…god bless seema!!
    Don’t worry you all will be fine..at any point don’t give up your mind..things will soon work our In a best way for u..keep in touch

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    • Seema

      October 17, 2014 at 9:11 am

      Thanks a lot Shaktii

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  8. Lifesong

    May 30, 2014 at 2:29 pm

    Hugs Seema. Hope you guys settle down soon. All the best. Tight hugs to Mantam for being such sports πŸ™‚

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    • Seema

      October 17, 2014 at 9:12 am

      Thanks Lifesong. Will pass on the hugs.

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  9. ashreyamom

    May 30, 2014 at 4:25 pm

    hugs dear.. it was a bold decision indeed.. good luck.

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    • Seema

      October 17, 2014 at 9:12 am

      Thanks Ashreyamom πŸ™‚

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  10. manasaprasad

    October 14, 2014 at 9:36 pm

    Moving is so hard, especially parting with possessions n people who matter. I was in tears when I walked the floors of “my home” in the US for the last time. And giving away my kids’ toys because we couldn’t carry the whole lot made me miserable as well. I had to do that when my daughter wasn’t around in order not to break her heart.
    I admire the way you explained to the kids and let them decide what mattered to them- family staying together or living apart to save money.

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    • Seema

      October 17, 2014 at 9:21 am

      I can imagine, how hard it must have been Manasa. I read your posts an was wondering all through about how you would have felt when you relocated!

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